This high charging couple with enormous leadership roles and responsibilities knew how to slow down from the demands and false urgencies of their professional lives to find purpose.
It is just as important to feel heard, as it is to "feel right". In other words, when we truly listen we say to that person "you are valuable enough for me to hear you".
Being comfortable is not the end goal of an authentic and healthy relationship. Struggling together, learning more about each other, and working to make one another better are the key ingredients to success.
It is easy to attack a situation with "guns blazing" in an effort to quickly solve the dilemma.Most of the time this results in a shortsighted solution.
I was talking with an executive about her 6-year-old daughter. Recently her little girl wrote a note to her that warmed her heart. The note simply said, "I can see your love Mommy."
Most effective leaders understand the importance of asking hard questions. Such is the case of the seasoned executive that I was talking with recently.
It was a dilemma. The team needed leadership but there was just no one to fill the role. Several months ago, I was in a coaching session with the executive who had to solve this leadership problem.
"You don't need relationships…you need credibility!" It seems to be the new thought process for some of today's sales and leadership gurus. I find this concept to be interesting… and misleading.
I've been learning a lot about the importance of alignment. It may be a business buzzword but if you take the time to dissect the meaning it has real power.
So many times we look for experts when what we really need are leaders.Leaders know how to gather experts and access knowledge. Experts know how to dispense knowledge about a certain subject.